5.22.2010

growing up, moving on, letting go

Over the past few years I've gotten close to people only to lose them. Friendships that have ended for one reason or another. Each time this happens, I reach backwards, trying to figure out what went wrong, when it went wrong, where... but mainly to try and reconnect, to assure I haven't lost that connection. There are people I can't quite remember their names, there are people I remember far too much about and sometimes still wish I could try and reach out to.

I believe it all started with Scott. I got into the habit of writing him long, rambling emails, getting out whatever I needed to and knowing it would be read by someone, even if he only replied with a sentence or two. Somewhere along the line I lost him, I think that was my fault. The awkward first meeting, the awkward realization of meeting someone you love in so many complicated and uncomplicated ways. So that became the coping mechanism I developed. I miss him still. I've tried to reach out over the years but nothing in reply. Despite my thinking about him the past few days, I am going to let him go. If he wanted to contact me he would.

The latest ones have been Craig and Blom. I just need to let go, to stop reaching out because obviously it is time to let go.

How do you change a part of you? Something you developed as you were developing into who you are?

No comments: